OMG! I pass by Matthew Zachary's blog and i saw this post on the Saturday, July 11. The topic is 'Fuck You"
Shock right? This is how the post goes. Some of you may agree with Matthew like i do, but some of you don. I am sure thr will be some ppl in your life tht likes saying
Shocking isn't it? Words you'd probably never hear me say, let alone type. I used to cringe every time I hear a profanity but being in an environment and society where sex, gossip and cursing are fast becoming an every day conversation, i've grown pretty immune to it..
We are a changing generation and vulgarities are now nothing out of the ordinary. There used to be a time where we'd get reprimanded just by saying "shit or damn" in primary school, these days you hear 10 year olds screaming loudly and proudly about the body part of their mother from which they popped out from in all sort of different dialects.
I've often been curious to know why and how people can use such explicit words without batting an eyelid. "Fuck" has apparently become the new conversational habit and summary of emotions to everything..
Woke up late? Fuck. Passed your test? Fuck yeah. Dropped your phone? Fuck. Fat? Fuck you. Pissed off? Fuck off. Shit can't seem to come out of your ass? Now thats really fucked up.
Then there are those who, wanting to be a little bit more saintly, use alternative terms such as "fark, f*ck, fcuk, f-ed up!".. it really doesn't matter which variation you use because you meant to say the word anyway so you might as well spell it right.
Perhaps people swear because they think its cool, adds a bit of power and authority to their image. But I reckon its actually quite the opposite.. when you scream a vulgarity, accidental or not, it sort of gives you a negative image?
Lets just say you see this really hot hunk or babe at a party and you're all smitten observing your eye candy from a far.. just as you pluck up the courage to approach this hot stuff, you hear him/her say "No fucking way, you're not fucking around with me are you? That is so fucked up!". Your impression of that person might instantly change and its usually not for the better.
And the thing is, if you keep using vulgarities in your everyday conversation, its going to come so naturally that you'll sometimes forget where you are and who you're speaking to when you let slip the wrong word. That's not going to be very nice especially when you're meeting an important business client or some cute new person.
For most people, swearing is an ethical question. There's a line dividing the people who are against or for it. I'm personally not entirely against vulgarities, I just wonder why we as a society utter such words so openly and freely..
Thats not to say I don't swear. I do. But the only time I curse out loud is when I am extremely pissed or in pain and screaming a profanity is like instant remedy that conveys the exact extent of my bloody emotion.
Imagine this, when I accidently hit my toe against the table, I wouldn't be saying "Wah lou eh! Why am I so clumsy! Damn pain man!". I'd naturally yell out something that gets my emotion and obvious pain across and goes to ease some tension as well.
Some might scoff and argue that there are still better words that can be used. I can obviously find a better word but in such an instance, I don't want to describe my emotion, I want to express it. Even with an extensive vocabulary, sometimes a good swear word is exactly the right choice of words.
Those rare times when I do swear, others immediately know that i'm not merely offering an impartial assessment of my feelings.. I really am feeling that particular way. So its not because I don't know how to choose a different word, but because English doesn't provide one that gets the message across as effectively.
Hmm.. what i'm trying to say in this entire post is, there's nothing extremely wrong about swearing (to each our own), but maybe we need to consider and be more aware of the context and situation before we spew such words?
I think swearing should be done sparingly and away from innocent bystanders who might find it offensive (and also because its rude, really). Using vulgarities too often not only gives others a negative impression of us but also dilutes the power of the word when we really require it..
Its just like how saying "I love you" too often and loosely completely kills the meaning and essence of it and you're just going to find it hard when you really want to express your true affections to your significant other.
Okay maybe wrong example but you get my point, right? Haha. Anyway, I'd just like to ask you.. what are your views and opinions regarding the use of swear words?
I totally agree to this passage, so guys, pls be careful on wht you told girls. Girls are sensitive.
